Do you think it's ok for your spouse to have a screensaver of a celebrity in very sexy clothes?

My husband and I have been together for 10 years (going on 11 in 4 months) and we have always had a really honest relationship, we are very open and supportive of each other. I'm a laid back girl and I don't mind my husband looking at porn in fact I think it's only natural and I watch it too sometimes- (by the way he's not obsessed with porn he's just a regular guy) Also we are not insecure about the ';celebrity'; crushes we have like he knows about my school-girl crush on Brendan Frasier (lol yeah) and other hot guys and I know about his crushes too like especially for Mariska Hargitay (even I think she;s hot) anyway today I come home to find out that he has decided to put a very sexy pic of Mariska as his screensaver on the desktop computer that we all use in the house which is located on the desk in our living room ( we have a 7 year old daughter and a 2 year old son) and I'll admit that I did flip out - it just seemed really inappropriate first off I felt like it was disrespectful to me and second I felt it was for my daughter as well because she uses this desktop to play online games and not to mention the fact that whoever comes to our house is gonna see it. He said he didnt know why it upset me since we have been so open with each other when I told him how I felt he chalked it up to me being jealous of Mariska Hargitay (which im not, she is gorgeous and I freely admit that lol) and he knows it's not like me to be jealous so it really freaked me out that he said that..if I was jealous then I would have a problem with everything else! and he pointed out the fact that he has had sexy screensavers before and I pointed out that those were on HIS personal laptop. I can't exactly describe why I feel disrespected but I know that I dont want my daughter to get the wrong idea of her father and I dont want her to get the wrong idea that you have to be sexy to be put on a screensaver or get guys - my husband said that if our daughter turned out to be a succesful woman like that and thats what she should see instead of a sexy woman so I pointed out ';ok then why isnt the screensaver of Mariska in her S.V.U. clothes or a business suit'; and he didn't put up a fight and changed the screensaver to some funny pic. Im sorry this is LONG it seems like a book I know but I'd like some input on this please any advice or insight you have that I dont would be appreciated thanks in advance.Do you think it's ok for your spouse to have a screensaver of a celebrity in very sexy clothes?
yes i know where you are coming from.



it shouldnt be an issue for YOU personally, its just a thing men do.

HOWEVER: in saying that, i think that its seriously inapropriate to have it on a computer that your children use and that is a FAIR thing to be annoyed about.



if its on his personal laptop, who cares, he could have miss nude 2009 on there and it shouldnt matter, but no, not on the family computer thats just wrong.



As it is children see way to much sexual things at a young age, there is no need to shove it in thier faces, also i think its perticularly unfair for your little girl, she is innocent and wouldnt understand it and it could give her body image issues in the future if it kept happening.



and thats my opinionDo you think it's ok for your spouse to have a screensaver of a celebrity in very sexy clothes?
You are WAY overreacting to something that is dumb. Those celebrities come and go, and it is not like he had a picture of his EX girlfriend on his computer.

Come on now, he has 11 years invested with you.

Let it go.

I dont understand. You can accept him watching naked people having sex but not a picture of a clothed lady who he will never meet?
I don't think you are jealous of Mariska personally. I think you are jealous that it's not your picture on the screen. There are two main problems I can see here: (1) he is definitely being disrespectful of your wishes, and (2) you are definitely insecure. Maybe some really honest, extended conversation between the two of you would do some good. Wish you luck.
i think, in this case, you're absolutely right. with the kids in the house, anyone is a suggestive pose or wearing lingerie is out of line. why not just change it?
You dont need to apologize for your feelings. Your kids need to know that you are the only woman for him and not Mariska (she is sexy I agree). You were not out of line and he did the right thing in changing it. Now let it go.
I agree with you. I am of a very similar mind when it comes to porn and celebrity crushes (hehe) and I would have done the same thing. If only for the sake of your children. They don't need to see that on their home computer. When you talk to him, just tell him that you don't have a problem with him appreciating certain celebrity females as long as it doesn't interfere with the home-life. Just tell him where he crossed the line and I'm sure he won't make the same mistake again. ;)
For him to change the screen saver on a computer the family all use is inappropriate. Its not a big deal, but, he should have thought of his children. A lot of families have a family picture as a screen saver.
You're overreacting. Just put a pix of some gorgeous male celebrity on the screensaver.



Then if he objects - you have a leg to stand on.



And you really owe him an apology for flipping out.
I think it is rude as hell of him. I would change it for him if he didn't change it himself, and I don't think he would like what I found to replace it.
Since it was on the family computer that the children use I'm on your side. The family computer isn't the place for that kind of thing. Tell him to put that on his own laptop and enjoy.
Maby
got - DAMN she is hot.





i'd bang her like a screen door in a hurricane.





but he's wrong to have her there with you and the kiddies around.
You thought about your kids when you saw the picture of Mariska and your right it was very inappropriate to put a picture like that on the family computer. That's how it all starts little girls see pictures like that and they want to look just like her. Your husband was wrong on so many levels it's a shame he doesn't understand why. Important thing is you got him to change the picture that's all that matters. You did not over react at all your husband is the one who reacted badly when you tried to explain why the picture was inappropriate. Your right by telling your husband he is sending the wrong message to his daughter by putting another woman's picture on the computer. Little girls love their father they look up to them he doesn't want his little girl to think he likes looking at other women. In a little girls eyes it should only be two girls in daddy's life his little girl and mommy.